“I had nothing, but they gave me hope.”

unplanned pregnancy

My name is Ellen.  I am 20 years old and originally from Thailand.  I came to the United States to study.  During my time here, I met a man who seemed to be very nice.  We dated for a few months, but I noticed that he was very controlling and did not want me to do anything without him.  We had already slept together, and he knew that I was pregnant. He kept pushing me to have an abortion. I called my mom; she has a friend here in the states who offered to house me in exchange for me caring for her children.  My mom did not know that I was pregnant. I was scared. I went online and looked for a clinic to confirm what I already knew was true. I made an appointment with Your Options Medical.  The people were kind and they seemed to truly care about me and what I was dealing with.  Hope started to grow in me that maybe I could have this baby.  My counselor explained my options and I left thinking, “I am going to keep my baby.”

This worked out very well until I told my mom’s friend that I was pregnant.  At first, she seemed to be okay with the idea, but when she saw that it might keep me from taking care of her children, she contacted my mom. Together, they came up with a different plan for me: I would have the baby and then send her to Thailand to be raised by my mom. I had major problems with this and I tried to talk to my mom, but she would not hear of it.

I called my advocate at Your Options Medical.  Once again, she mentioned adoption and I liked the idea, especially if I would be the one to pick out the right family for my child.  I wanted a family who would make sure the baby would be well cared for and loved. I began looking into adoption agencies.

In the meantime, things at home got really difficult.  The woman that I lived with was looking for money to cover my room and board even though I continued to watch her children.  She also wanted me to send my baby away.  I visited several adoption agencies and found one that would pay for my room and board until I had the baby and would help with additional expenses.

After many months of planning, my little one was born healthy in spite of all that I had been through. If I did not get the help that I needed from Your Options Medical, my story probably would have ended differently.  I had nothing, but they gave me hope.  I stayed with my baby for two days in the hospital before signing on the dotted line for her to be adopted.  It was the hardest thing that I have ever had to do, but my advocate said that it was the bravest thing that anyone has ever done.  I know that I did the right thing for her.

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