Your girlfriend/significant other is pregnant, and you have no idea what to do. The law says you have no legal say over the decision to be made regarding the pregnancy. Culture has told you that you have no right to even voice your thoughts or opinions.
If you want to talk with someone, you can speak with the staff of Your Options Medical about any questions you have. In this blog, we will briefly discuss some important facts regarding unexpected pregnancies.
IT IS ILLEGAL TO COERCE SOMEONE TO HAVE AN ABORTION
When you first find out your girlfriend is pregnant, you might think abortion is the only option. You may not be ready to be a dad; you may not want to be with your significant other long-term. Whatever the circumstances, we understand why you might want to rush into an abortion. But you need to know that there are steps to be taken before having an abortion, and if you coerce someone to have an abortion against their will, it is a punishable crime under the law.
SAYING “I’LL SUPPORT WHATEVER YOU DECIDE” ONLY REINFORCES THE WOMAN’S THOUGHT THAT SHE IS ALONE
When your girlfriend shares any major news that will affect both of you and your relationship, she wants to know what you are thinking, feeling and hoping for. Though you have no legal right to force her into any one decision (which would never be recommended anyway!), you can share with her what you would like the outcome to be. If you feel overwhelmed and unsure of what to think, be honest. Tell her you need some time to process the news but that you want to be there for her and with her throughout this process. She needs your support and your presence.
YOU NEED TO KNOW THE FACTS
Here are a few steps that need to be taken before a decision is made regarding an unplanned pregnancy:
- A medical-quality pregnancy test should be administered.
- A positive pregnancy test should be followed up with an ultrasound. The ultrasound is needed to see if there is an actual pregnancy (not a molar pregnancy, etc.), to make sure the pregnancy is developing in the uterus and not in the fallopian tube (an ectopic pregnancy), to assess for miscarriage risk, and to establish how far along the pregnancy is (this will determine if an abortion procedure is even available).
- It is best to have pregnancy options counseling with a trained professional who is not financially vested in the decision. This will provide you time to discuss the options available to you without the pressure.
- STD/STI testing should be administered – an untreated STD/STI can pose a risk to the woman and the unborn child, especially if the woman is considering an abortion. For more information, check out our blog on this topic.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS
The last thing you should know when facing an unexpected pregnancy is you are not alone. At Your Options Medical, we can provide you with needed medical services, information, and support required during this time. All of our services are confidential and offered at NO COST TO YOU – no insurance is required.
We welcome you to come with your significant other to her appointment so you can be right there alongside her each step of this journey. Contact Your Options Medical today!